5 Surprising Questions for Body Love
This piece was originally a guest post I wrote for The Body Book
Women come to me to transform their relationship with their body and ultimately, themselves.
They’re tired of not feeling good enough, exhausted from trying to figure out how to eat “right,” and they’re ready to end the body bashing.
Sound familiar?
Here’s the thing, feeling good in your skin isn’t about being a size 2, it’s about nourishing your soul from the inside out and appreciating who you are (exactly as you are) in this moment right now.
Inner change always creates outer change, so if you want to love your body and your life, ya gotta start cultivating self kindness.
Here are 5 questions that will instantly strengthen your relationship with yourself. (Psst, sometimes just asking the right questions is the answer).
1) What do you like about yourself?
Every day jot down one personal trait that you’re grateful for (i.e. I appreciate my ability to give to others) and one physical trait (i.e. I honor my strong arms). Make this a daily habit and over time you’ll not only cultivate a radical sense of self-love, you’ll also train your mind to always look for the good in yourself.
2) Would you say that to your best friend?
What you say to yourself each day can either tear you down or lift you up. Watch your words and thoughts. If you wouldn’t speak to a friend like that, you shouldn’t speak to yourself like that. Our thoughts influence our actions and our actions become who we are. Become a woman who loves herself, starting today. Begin by shifting your self-talk from this…
“I should be better. Everyone else can do it – why can’t I? I’m a total failure.”
To something more like this…
“I’m learning as I go and I’m doing my very best. One day at a time. I’m right where I’m supposed to be.”
3) Is your story helping you or holding you back?
We all tell ourselves stories about why we can’t do “that,” why “this” didn’t work out, or how “that” is keeping us from moving forward. Question your story. Is it even true? Or is it simply a means to hold you back? When you’re ready, rewrite your story from a place of empowerment and a place that serves you.
4) Do you show yourself you’re worth it?
Buy that candle, read that book, take a walk. Whatever it is you love, but don’t make time for – do it. Practicing daily acts of self-care gives your soul the energy it needs grow and flourish. And when you show up for yourself in these small ways it sends a message to the Universe that you’re worth it. And you know what? You are.
5) Do you have healthy boundaries?
If you always say yes, if you apologize when it’s not your fault, if you allow your work life to invade your personal life, and if you surround yourself with people who zap your energy and make you feel bad, then you, my sweet friend, need to set some boundaries. When we create healthy boundaries for ourselves we are saying to the world that we matter. Make a list of your boundaries (be specific) and then practice, practice, practice. The more you practice showing up for yourself, the more comfortable you’ll get.
With love,
Corinne
I’d love to hear from you. Tell me in the comments below how you’ll craft more self-love!